The First Step is the Hardest

The human mind is a game changer. We have the capability to do whatever we set our minds to, and the moment that we realize this, is the moment we can create a life we have always dreamed of!

Ever since I graduated from university in May of 2019, I have been desperately trying to figure out what the hell I want to do with my life. I thought that by getting a degree in a field of study that interested me (or in my case two fields) that I would have a clearer direction of how to move forward with my life.

But I was extremely wrong.

I found myself feeling lost more than ever before. I didn’t have a job in my field, or a career path planned out for myself and I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go to grad school after spending five years completing my undergraduate degree – not to mention the associated costs with extra schooling.

The modern society we live in seems to have this prescribed timeline for how to "properly" navigate life. It’s usually along the lines of - go to university, get a degree, choose a career, fall in love, get married, buy a home, start a family… blah, blah, blah. You get the picture. It’s a story-line that we’ve all heard time and time again.

Now factor in the cultural pressures that we experience on a daily basis (which are being amplified by social media now more than ever before). Somehow, we have to find our life purpose, start a side hustle, travel the world, stay fit, eat healthy, be happy, and maintain a perfect insta life…all while navigating our way through the complications that life throws at us each and every day.

*Let me clarify, there is absolutely nothing wrong if people choose to adhere to this lifestyle.* I can see the appeal for some people as it can offer a bit more structure. However, I don’t think that anyone should be pressured to conform to such a restricted way of living. There are other options available, people just aren’t talking about them as much.

According to westernized culture, graduating meant it was time for me to become an “adult” – which, to me, seemed like a miserable fate of being stuck in a 9-5 job that required me to work long hours for not nearly enough money, doing something that I wasn’t passionate about.

So, I deviated from the mainstream route of life.

Instead, I chose to move across the ocean to pursue my passion of being a professional athlete – a path that (unfortunately) not many women get the opportunity to do and is not exactly financially rewarding.

“You can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance doing what you love” – Jim Carrey.

This quote has resonated deeply with me from the very moment I heard it. I have always felt that it was better to be happy doing something I loved than to be miserable doing something I disliked (something I likely picked up from my dad, who was a successful business owner).

But not many people in my circle understood that – especially those that were older than me – some of which have told a few times that it might be time for me to "grow up" *insert eye roll here*

It’s crazy how ONE decision can change your entire life.

At the time I didn’t really think much of it. To me I was just following my heart and finding myself along the way. It wasn’t a beautifully paved path to where I am now by any means. It was anything but smooth. It was full of difficult moments, curve balls, sucker punches and even a global pandemic. There were days that I questioned myself, days that I didn’t know what I was doing at all and days that I wanted to give up altogether, but deep down I knew that I could make it work. I had to. Not for anyone else’s sake, but for my own.

I figured that after a few years of playing overseas and experiencing different cultures that I would eventually come back to Canada, settle down and figure things out from there. And there is potential that could still happen but that doesn’t seem to be the path that I am heading towards at this very moment.

When I made the decision to tryout with a team in Norway, I didn’t think much other than I was getting an opportunity to continue playing the game I loved. And as strange as it may sound, the second I stepped off that plane, I felt like I was at home (not just because it was freezing cold outside) but because everything inside me just felt…right. It was one of those moments we hear other people talk about but don’t often experience ourselves. The moment when everything just suddenly clicks. Now I find myself seriously considering making Norway my permanent home – which is super scary for me to declare publicly but that’s my truth.

All of these changes happened for me because I set goals for myself, put the work in to achieve them and allowed the universe to deliver the right opportunities at the right time which allowed me to get where I am now. And if I can achieve this, I know so many other people have the power to do it too – but might not know how to achieve these goals because they seem so impossible to reach. Believe me, that's how I felt at the beginning too.

This is one of the many reasons why I decided to start Taylored minds. I want to help you take control of your life and achieve your goals – no matter how big or small or how scary they might be – by giving you the tools, techniques, and resources to help access and utilize the superpower that is your mind. I truly hope that by sharing some of my personal experiences and some of the knowledge I have obtained in my (albeit short) 25 years that you are inspired and empowered to break out of your shell and create a life that you love!

I hope that you’ll join me on this journey!

Podcast to follow very soon!!

Until then...take a chance on yourself!



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Always remember that you have the power to create a life you love! -Tay

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